This simple yet effective trick will change your life for the better.
I don’t like long intros so we’ll get right to it. If you really want to change your life you have to change your story.
So what does it means to rewrite your story?
You can’t go back in time and have a redo at things that have already happened. But you can absolutely hit the reset button for where you’re at right now. You can change how your life is going in this present moment with this simple exercise.
Rewriting your story means changing the things that you tell yourself. There is a constant narrative going on inside of our heads. Assessing how life is going and how each day is going. From the moment you get out of bed, your mind is already at hard at work constructing your story for that day.
This happens without us realizing it because it’s so natural and so easy.
Think about what went through your head this morning as you were getting up and getting ready for the day. Were you already thinking of all the things you have to do or maybe the things you don’t want to do? Or maybe things you’d rather do instead?
Now think of how those thoughts made you feel. Did they excite you? Did they make you want to jump out of bed and run out the door to have the most amazing day? I hope so! But often times these morning thoughts can leave you in mourning, wishing you could crawl back into bed and avoid facing certain things in your day.
If the later statement resonates with you I want you to know it’s possible to change your story. It’s possible to live a life you love, a life that makes you excited to get out of bed and seize the day.
I want to share with you my personal experience with this, and how this exercise completely changed my life.
A year and a half ago I was severely depressed. As in too depressed to function more than being able to get up for my dead-end job, (that didn’t pay well at all) go home, shower, and go to bed. This went on for months, and to add insult to injury my husband and I were also trying to have a kid and every month my depression got a little worse and life felt a little less worth living.
Throughout these painful months, I tried my best to find joy and understanding of what I was feeling and going through. I added more yoga and meditation into my daily routine. It did help for a little while, it definitely helped me to be more in the moment. But what really helped me make a more permanent change was this:
One day my husband came home from work and had me watch a YouTube video. It was a speech that one of the CEO’s wife at his company gave at a conference.
She talked about not letting the negative world get to you. Not abiding by the negative thoughts that we think, but to rewrite our story.
This is what made a lasting impact and ultimately helped me get out of the funk I was in. After hearing her speech I realized the negative story replaying in my head day in and day out.
It went something like this:
“I hate my life, I hate my job. I just want to sleep, I really don’t want to get out of bed.”
I’d get out of bed and start calculating how many hours before I could sleep again. At work, I’d think about how I wasn’t going anywhere. I couldn’t grow in that job and for the most part, I didn’t care, it paid the bills but that was it.
I felt horrible and stuck.
There wasn’t a way I could change. There was no way I’d be good enough for anyone or any other job. I’d think about how I’m never going to get pregnant, I’ll never get to experience being a mom or having a little one. I was a subject to these negative thoughts and as a result, I lost control of my quality of life.
Until I did this exercise. I tried rewriting my story, and this is what I wrote:
“I am alive and that is good. I have a good life I also have a wonderful, loving supportive husband. The job I have is good and it pays the bills, I can change the things in my life that I don’t like. I am happy and open to what life has to offer. I am open to opportunities and can go after opportunities to improve my life, I AM capable of having a great life. One day I will get pregnant. My body is capable of creating a life, I am strong and I am healthy and I will have a strong and healthy baby. I am happy and thriving, life is worth living, there is so much good to be noticed in my life.”
This is how my life changed:
I felt free. After rewriting my story I realized I have the power to change my life. Not all of our thoughts are true, and those negative ones will tear us apart. I felt like I could actually live that happy positive life I was writing about.
Things started to get better I kept up my yoga and meditation. But I also added this crucial exercise. Anytime I’d start to get lost in my negative thoughts and emotions I’d write out the kind of life I wanted and could live. In my writings, I’d remind myself that my life isn’t falling apart. I’d remind myself how wonderful life is and what I’m able to do is enough. I am enough.
About one month after the first time I did this exercise I applied for a new job. After a week of applying, I got an interview the next week I got a second interview and was starting this dream job within the next week. The day after I started training at my new dream job I found out I was expecting (you can read the full story of how I found out here).
My entire life had changed.
Everything that had me down was no longer apart of my life or it didn’t affect me like I used to let it. I was able to become the happiest I’ve ever been (not just because I was able to get pregnant but because I decided I can be happy and take control of my life. I don’t have to listen to the negative thoughts that circle through my head.
I was able to really start living a life I love by changing my script.